7 Kinky Scenes That Don’t Involve Pain
Sensory depravation is removing one or more of your senses during play. Blindfolds, ball-gags and hoods are just a few examples of items that can be used for sensory play. By taking one or more senses away, the others are heightened or enhanced. With your sight removed you tend to listen more to know what is coming next. With your speech remeoved, you learn new ways to communicate.
Sensation play
A few basic examples of sensation play are wet, cold, hot, soft.
Here are a few ways you can use these sensations:
Switching from hot to cold and back can be an intense experience.
Hot: Candle wax- if used properly should not hurt at all. Purchase tall, non scented, white candles that you can find in the dollar store. Generally these do not have a high burn temperature. The further away from the skin you hold the candle, the cooler the wax will be when it lands. If you hold a candle high enough the wax will not be as hot. When in doubt you can purchase candles that turn in to massage oil.
Cold: Ice- When using ice, if doing direct contact, do not use it for longer then 5 minutes since this can result in frost bite. Try using indirect contact, having the ice in a bag or a facecloth.
Using sensation play can be a lot of fun especially when mixed in with sensory play. Your partner not knowing what sensation is coming up next can make for a fun game.
Bondage
This can be very erotic and fun and is considered the foundation for BDSM. Being bound and played with can be an intensely enjoyable experience. You do not need to spend countless hours or money to learn high-end, complex bondage (though it certainly helps), the basics will get you pretty far. Many sex stores carry easy bondage toys such as bondage tape where the tape only sticks to itself. Be careful with metal cuffs when moving around since they can cut into the skin and be sure to have a extra key handy. Additionally never use duct tape since it can fuse to the skin and be very painful to take off. A pair of blunt nose scissors is a good thing to have around. In case anything goes wrong you can cut the material quickly while reducing the chance of injuring yourself or your partner.
Role play
There are so many different scenarios that you can do. Here are some of the popular ones:
Nurse/doctor and patient – going in for a “regular check up” and must do unorthodox treatments.
Student and teacher/principal- trying to convince the teacher/principal to get better grades or trying to get out of being expelled. Boss and applicant for a job- applicant willing to do anything to get the job.
These are just a few examples you can play around with but ultimately roleplaying is up to your imagination.
Foot fetish
I have met both male and female that are into foot fetish. This can be as simple as giving your partner a foot rub. But can get all the way up to trampling, which is not intended to hurt but instead some enjoy the pressure when stepped on. Footjobs are another fun and exciting part of foot fetish that involve no pain whatsoever.
Tickling
This may not be for all, I know for some people tickling can be unbearable and not fun. For others tickling can be fun and for the tickler seeing the other person happy and laughing can be very gratifying. For the ticklee, having your partner over power you and hold you down as they tickle you can be erotic and fun. Be sure to take breaks for the ticklee to breathe since being tickled is very strenuous. Be aware that if you tickle for too long the ticklee can become very sick which can include nausea, migraine and body aches, so be sure to check in and don’t over do it.
Orgasm play
Orgasm play can be edging, tease and denial, forced orgasm and multiple orgasms. All of these can be fun for both partners. Power exchange and bondage can heighten these types of scenes. I now tend to do one of these in each of my scenes.
These scenes are just to give you an idea that kink/fetish is not all about pain. As you can see BDSM isn’ t something to be afraid of or scared about. It won’t hurt unless you want it to!
